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Jul-13-2010

A slow birthing of “Sanctified: A Memoir”

A few days after my birth in Pine Bluff, Arkansas, my parents drove 27 miles south and east to Grady, the town where Mama grew up in the Mississippi Delta. I weighed 8 pounds and 6 ounces and was 21 inches long, tall for a newborn back in 1966. Mama pulled the sheet back and presented me to her mother, Madea: “Most women have a pretty baby, but girl you sho have brought home an ugly ass child. He looks like a little Thimble, doesn’t he?”

This is a tiny excerpt from “Thimble, from Grady” available on a website called Postcard Memoirs.

For the rest of this essay click here http://www.postcardmemoirs.com/post/802626469/thimble-from-grady

Posted under The Writing Life
Jun-11-2010

Visiting Tahiti and French Polynesia’s Islands of Paradise

Life at Pension Motu Iti on Moorea has exquisite access to the water for swimming and snorkeling.

A mountain view from a few miles up in Moorea.

PAPEETE, Tahiti – From that first whiff of fresh gardenias on board on Air Tahiti Nui’s late-night flight from LAX, our delegation’s trip from rural Indiana’s flatlands to South Pacific’s plush utopia, had already entered a new realm of sensory bliss.

The flight attendants placed flowers in our ears and switched to traditional Polynesian wraps. Champagne flowed freely. The pilot’s instructions were in English, French and Tahitian. Every passenger had private television screens, earphones, pillows, blankets, and seats that reclined in exquisite comfort. It was as if everyone were flying First Class. French Polynesia and 118 islands’ hospitality had already kissed us and we hadn’t even yet touched her soil. The airline industry could learn a lot from those folks.

For the next two weeks, two professors (myself included) would take 20 American college students on a 10,000-mile round-trip excursion via airplane, bus, van and boat to the islands of Tahiti, Moorea, Huahine and finally, Bora Bora to discover the people and culture of French Polynesia.

Just as expected, locals greeted us at the airport in Papeete (pronounced “poppy eh tee”) and placed leis on every person who got off the plane. Getting through customs went smoothly because of the trilingual agents’ efficiency. While most of the service industry and structure is fluent in English, it would be helpful for someone in the travel party to speak conversational to advanced French.

Our hotel, the Royal Tahitian, had such deep green shrubbery, it was as if we had all entered a new kingdom of greenery. Each morning, we’d get up and find flowers had fallen from the trees and landed on the walkways. The beachfront Tahitian indeed treats each visitor regally. Mornings began with freshly cut pineapples, mangoes, watermelons, croissants and coffee.

For the entire entry on the “I’m Black and I Travel” blog, click on the words “posted under.”

Posted under Travel
Jun-7-2010

Small Town

Courtney Anderson performs .

A colorful pride festival attendee.

SPENCER, Ind.,- Pride festivals in San Francisco, Chicago and New York City boast hundreds of thousands of spectators every June with their go-go boys, drag queens and dykes on bikes. Courage drew activists together some forty years ago to create something out of nothing in those urban centers. Now they’re pretty much corporate organizations with big budgets.

But here in this town rural Indiana town of 2,500 souls, a band of drag queens performing on the Owen County Courthouse steps in the rain proved to have even more courage. And Courtney Anderson’s cartwheel in high heel boots, was the show stopper. That’s Miss Gay Indiana 2009.

Drawing a strong contingent from nearby Bloomington, a handful of courageous souls braved the weather for this town’s fourth annual pride festival. Last year organizers were proud to claim 250 people – “more than double the prior year’s turn out.” It’ll easily be up to 300 this year.

When the drag performers came out to do their routines, a few law enforcement officers on duty elbowed each other and winked. Yeah, it’s easy to mock drag queens but how much courage does it take to show up in Spencer dressed in full regalia without a gun?

By 3 p.m. the festival organizers were packing up and shutting down. A mob of LGBT folks wearing a rainbow of outfits took over Skid Row Bar & Grill directly across from the court house. When John Mellencamp sang “I’ve seen it all in a small town” in the 1980s, Spencer is the kind of a rural Indiana town he had in mind.

Posted under Rural Landscape
May-31-2010

Reading at the San Francisco Public Library

This is my reading from the Spring of 2010 at the San Francisco Public Library:

Posted under The Writing Life
Mar-30-2010

Soul-Making Literary Competition Awards Ceremony in SF

This has Youtube footage of my section of the reading held at the San Francisco Public Library. There were almost 40 readers that day. We were each allotted 4 minutes. I guess I went over. Again, thanks to Rowena, Jennifer, Philip, Lane, Orlando, Dan and Cupcake for all showing up to support me. It turned out to be an incredibly special day.

Posted under The Writing Life
Feb-1-2010

Intercultural Essay Win…yeah!

Congratulations, Samuel!

I’m writing to let you know that you won 2nd place in the
Intercultural Essay contest. I loved your essay, “A Dash of Pepper in
the Snow.” It’s what I was hoping to find when I started this contest.
Essays that really explore intercultural and race issues, that aren’t
afraid to look at them honestly and openly. And I loved the ending. I
am sure that your essay will enlighten many.

You are invited to receive the award in person, where you’ll have some
time to read. If you can’t be there, the award and money will be
mailed to you after the event. You should be hearing later on from the
organizer of the Soul-Making Contest, and can question her with
anything else you need to know. If you do plan to attend and read, and
need help excerpting your essay, please let me know. I made that offer
last year and it really helped the readers.

Soul-Making Literary Competition Awards Reading
Koret Auditorium, SF Main Library, Civic Center
Sunday Afternoon, March 21st, 2010
Library opens at noon. Doors to the Koret open at 12:30 PM. Program
begins promptly at 1:00 PM. A reception follows.

Thank you so much for entering, and for giving me the chance to read
your honest essay. And let me know you received this.

Best wishes,

Tara L. Masih

TARA L. MASIH INTERCULTURAL ESSAY PRIZE
Sponsored/Judged by
Up to 6,000 words.Judge’s Comments:

I am looking for essays dealing with matters of culture, race, and a sense of place, either within the smaller microcosm of self-identity or within the larger environment of family, society and world interactions. I seek essays in the traditional form, my definition being the conscious shaping of nonfiction prose around a central idea or subject. In E. B. White’s words, you will be putting your “finger on a little capsule of truth,” using reality to point to your truth, not fiction.

For more information on submitting click this link.

Posted under Essays
Jan-5-2010

Roaming – - in Cuba

HAVANA –- The woman across the restaurant looked familiar, really familiar. An author, a video auteur or maybe I had seen her in a movie. It’s of course rude to gaze at people but I was irked that I couldn’t figure out how I knew that face. My travel companion didn’t recognize her at all.
Apparently, my gaze was so intense it caused her to walk across the room to the table. She smiled big.

“You’re Americans, right?”

“Yes, we are.”

“Then yes, I am the one who killed Selena in the movie.”

The woman standing at our table was Lupe Ontiveros. She had indeed been the killer in the movie “Selena.” Ontiveros has also played a quirky theater clerk in “Chuck and Buck” and an outrageous maid full of pithy quotes in “Happiness.” She boasted that her latest movie, “Real Women Have Curves” had, in her words, “kicked a** at the box office.”

“I’m from Mexico, so I can come and go here as much as I want,” she said.

It was Dec. 2002 and Ontiveros was a part of a brigade of filmmakers in town for a Latin American Film Festival being held in town. She wasn’t the only celebrity I’d encounter on my weekend trip to this beautifully dilapidated city.

Her sentiment about being able to legally go back and forth between Mexico and Cuba punctuated something that lingered in my mind the entire time.

WHO CAN GO, WHO CAN’T

Last spring, the Obama administration lifted the ban for Americans wanting to visit relatives in Cuba. Prior to that it had been expressly forbidden. Certain categories of journalists, diplomats, religious organizations, educational groups and military were among the Americans who could legally obtain Cuba travel visas.

What strikes me is that it’s the U.S. Department of the Treasury monitoring this activity. Mostly, it seemed that the American government didn’t want us spending money there. As a freelance journalist, I was in a protected category, though I still felt uneasy.

I was there as a journalist and self-appointed sociologist.

There are any number of subversive ways for savvy non-category Americans to travel to Cuba through Mexico, Canada and the Caribbean. Increasingly there have been more and more organized tourists groups traveling through Cuba. It’s tricky, though not impossible.

My travel companion, a friend of a friend, was living in the Cayman Islands at the time and arranged all of the travel. American credit cards are of no use there so I couldn’t have booked it. We took a weekend package from a local Caymanian airline departing on a Thursday night.

Things work at their own pace on those islands. Our flight scheduled for 4:30 p.m. didn’t depart until 7:30 p.m. The flight into Jose Marti International Airport took less than an hour. By 9:30, we had cleared customs en route to the Hotel Habana Libre in a beat-up yellow taxi stitched together with parts from the 1950s, fulfilling every idea I had about Cuba.

I became aware that if I applied too much pressure with my feet, the floor of the taxi could cave.

During the taxi ride, I noticed the road to downtown was more like an agrarian undeveloped road in Arkansas or Mississippi. Even in December, Havana felt damp, wet and muggy. Almost all of the vehicles were remnants from the 1950s, mostly taxis and trucks.

The interior of the Hotel Habana was spacious, with sparkling white ceramic floors. The hotel was located downtown on the famous corner of 23rd and L, where the “La Rampa” district begins, very close to a lively nightlife district and the University of Habana. Not a 5-star hotel nor a run-down dive, the place had decent rooms that were clean and habitable, but was less than an average American hotel.

A DARKER CUBA

We arrived at almost 11 p.m. The staff was accommodating, speaking clear English.

The thing that shocked me most about Cuba was how many black people I saw everywhere. At least 50 percent of the street vendors, hotel workers and every other menial job, were the descendants of slaves. Back at home, I thought of Cubans as light, bright, almost white-looking people I had seen in Miami, such a contrast to Havana.

Apparently, the clothes I was wearing screamed “American tourist.” People thronged me with words in broken English, asking me to drop letters in the mail to their relatives in Miami, Chicago, New York or California. In my Sesame Street Spanish, I communicated as much as I could.

Their longing to communicate with relatives from whom they had been alienated made me feel a ball of sadness in my belly.

My friend and I bummed around the city aimlessly, which is how I’ve come to prefer traveling. I was struck by the splendor and grandeur of the stunning mansions overlooking the ocean. In Miami, these structures would be worth tens of millions of dollars. Before the revolution, they must have looked like palaces from another dimension.

Decades of neglect under Fidel Castro had left them decimated, dilapidated and crumbling, as if bombs had hit them during a war.

Cuba was an unhealed soul with an unquenched thirst for freedom and commerce, despite the hundreds of tourists who were flooding it’s gates.

Near the end of our trip, we found a bar called La Bodeguita del Medio, made famous by writer Ernest Hemingway, one of its regulars. It’s supposed to be where he had his first mojito. A bartender pointed to an inscription on the wall “Mi mojito en la Bodeguita” (My mojito at the Bodeguita) and told us it was in Hemingway’s handwriting.

THE LANGUAGE OF STRUGGLE
At one point, we got on an elevator with Al Lewis, who played Grandpa on “The Munsters” in the 1960s. I had watched enough television to recognize him immediately. He looked exactly like his TV character. He and Ms. Ontiveros were in town for the same film festival.

Probably my most striking experience had to do with two black guys, Adolpho and Michael, who approached us on the streets. They were intrigued by how much we were enjoying Havana and Cuba. They followed us and talked for hours about of growing up poor in Cuba, even taking us back to their house to try to sell us Cohibas, perhaps Cuba’s greatest export, cigars.

I wanted to be able to speak to them in Spanish. I wanted to be able to tell them that just because I was an American didn’t mean I was wealthy, that I didn’t understand struggle.

I do understand.

Some day I’d like to go back to Havana do a Spanish immersion program. I have a feeling I could learn Spanish in an environment as rough and raggedy as Cuba.

Posted under Travel
May-27-2008

Leaving Grady, Ark…

GRADY, Ark. – Whenever the train comes through this town, all the windows, tables and kitchen tops shake as the reverberations are felt by the people living closest to the train track. That’s my family. All of them live within
a few hundred feet of it, some even closer. The noise is so deafening all conversations, television watching and sleeping, are interrupted by the rat-a-tat-tat of the locomotives.

Each time I come down here I walk away with some insight or appreciation for our family’s geographic roots, what it means to be from a town of 500 and more importantly what it means to have escaped. More than anything this last trip I am committed to writing a book proposal that will help me excavate the landscape and rich themes of American religion,
dislocated sexuality, mental illness and addiction so carefully placed in my family.

It never fails that when I leave Grady, when I’ve wave goodbye to my cousins and kiss my grandmother on the cheek, tears always seem to gather in my eyes. Life on the other side of the train track is freedom. This last time my grandmother, Muh Deah, had a more poignant reaction.

“Goodbye Muh Deah,” I yelled as I walked toward the screen door.

“Don’t say goodbye to me,” she snapped back, her body slumped over in a chair facing the TV. She’s unable to hide the pout on her face.

“Alright then, farewell.”

She waved her hand without even looking up from the TV.

I never realized how trapped she must feel when we drive off.

Posted under Rural Landscape
Mar-21-2008

Congrats Dan White!!!!!!!!

Congratulations to a good buddy of mine who wrote this at Columbia. Way to go Dan!

FROM PUBLISHERS WEEKLY…..

The Cactus Eaters: How I Lost My Mind—and Almost Found Myself—on the Pacific Coast Trail
Dan White. Harper Perennial, $14.95 paper (384p) ISBN 978-0-06-137693-1

Traversing broiling deserts, snowy mountain passes and dank rain forests on its crooked way from Mexico to Canada, the Pacific Coast Trail is an epic challenge for die-hard backpackers. White and his girlfriend, Melissa, set out, late in the season and bereft of experience, to tread all 2,650 miles of it, leaving behind lousy reporting jobs and hoping to find self-definition and a deepened relationship. (They call their trek the Lois and Clark Expedition.) Hilarious greenhorn misadventures ensue—including the author’s ill-advised chomp, while dizzy with dehydration, into a reputedly moisture-laden prickly-pear cactus—that tested their survival skills and commitment as a couple. The trail becomes less an itinerary than a world unto itself, full of squalor, discomfort and majestic scenery, and peopled by charismatic misfits and an austere cult of ultra-light speed-hikers, as the couple rely on arcane camping gear and bizarre gummy-bear-and-marshmallow diets. The wilderness authenticity the author seeks proves elusive; all journey and no destination, the story itself eventually trails off with the hero even more callow and confused than when he started. Still, White’s vivid prose and hangdog humor make readers want to keep up. (June)

Posted under The Writing Life
Feb-13-2008

The Best Intention for Writing a Memoir…

“A good memoir does more than dredge up secrets from the writer’s past. A
good memoir filters a life through resonant narrative, and in doing so must
achieve a balance between language and candor. It was not the subject matter
of my memoirs that I hoped would be startling, but rather language’s
capacity to name what was nameless, to define what had once been vague and
chaotic. The chief privilege of writing a memoir was the opportunity to go
back and make sense of events that left me dumbstruck, mired in confusion,
unarmed with the luminous power of words.”

~ From Bernard Cooper’s essay “Marketing Memory.”

Posted under The Writing Life